Monday, November 18, 2013

How Your Ego Can Impair Your Creativity

High accomplishments can be made with dare to take risks, dare to indulge in creativity, and dare to face challenging circumstances which may break down the flow of motivation to your acts. Ego is a common factor which induce you to submit against small personal risks necessary to break out of your comfort zone and pour yourself fully into work. The fear of facing the fact that your creative
capability has some limits is a common factor which discourages you to take initiatives; that is inflated ego. People want to fly close to their safety zone in order to secure their ego. So, in this sense, ego can prove harmful to any creativity making the people live within a limit of thoughts and actions.

Exploring the Victim

We find several instances in which one would rather quit one’s idea rather than be flexible enough to others to compromise and proceed with one’s creativity. For example, one may not take interest in dealing with someone who does not listen to one with intention and care. Or someone may give up one’s struggle just after a few discouraging remarks of others. When we’re playing the victim, our internal dialogue goes something like “if they won’t listen to my ideas, then I’m just not going to offer them any more” or “there’s no use in trying very hard on this project, because my efforts won’t be valued anyway.” At first, this may not seem like a form of ego, but it is. You are putting your own need for recognition ahead of the work and ahead of the mission of your team.

If you detach yourself from the creativity, you are not putting yourself fully into the work in front of you, and thus are abdicating your contribution. You are allowing someone else to control your efforts rather than taking charge of your own engagement. You must stay alert to the “victim” voice inside your head and not allow it to cause you to withhold your best work.

Your Aggression for your Defense

When one thinks that the creative ideas of others can encroach one’s area of influence, one may want to secure one’s position and authority. He/ She can be a manager discouraging creative ideas and he/she may even take credit for the ideas of others, or refuse to allow them to stand in the spotlight.

There is a vast gap between confidence in your abilities, and an over-inflated ego. Ego says “I can do no wrong”, whereas confidence says “I can get this right.” Confidence says “I’m valuable” while ego says “I’m invaluable.” This is a critical difference in mindset. Be aware when you are generally contributing and when you are simply trying to protect the status quo.

Being Easily Distracted:

Ego is dangerous in the sense that it can easily be tempered. The behavior of others can influence your confidence. You may perceive everything as a personal attack and in response to it, what you say to them or how nicely you say it, they will somehow twist it into an insult. Similarly, some people treat any disagreement as an indication that you are questioning their competence. Both of these are a subtle displays of inflated ego.

When you put your self-perception ahead of the work, you are in danger of compromising your best efforts. Collaboration also becomes more challenging, because others grow tired of walking on eggshells. You must nix the tendency to be easily offended, and instead embrace the opportunity that disagreements or disconfirming information provide to sharpen your thoughts and skills.

For sure, there is a right and a wrong way to deliver criticism. The correct response to poorly delivered criticism isn’t to get offended, it’s to offer a helpful suggestion on how you’d like to receive feedback in the future.

Let me tell you an example of how you should take other’s discouraging response.

Two friends went to the riverside for morning walk every early in the morning. They both used to pass by a man lying on his bed waiting for the sun to rise so that he could get up for day’s work. One of them greeted that lying man with morning salutation but the man never said anything in response. One day, the other friend asked his friend not to greet that old man as he had never replied to him. Upon this, the latter replied, “ Why should I give up a good habit of greeting the people in the morning just because of an ordinary man’s behavior. It would mean that my actions are controlled by a man lying on his bed. If I change my habit, It would mean that the behavior of that man made me change myself. No, I am the owner of myself, I know what to do and when to do.”

Stay Confident…….

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